Real Life

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messI have something to say. My son was taking pictures and he took this one of me. Now I know that this isn’t anything to be proud of and it is definitely not “Blog-worthy”, but that’s my point. This is REAL LIFE. No makeup, Sesame Street shirt and sweats, messy house and smudgy mirror in my living room. This is my life and I love it.

We see the best parts of other’s lives on social media and most of us can’t help but compare our lives with the seemingly perfect lives of others. But what we sometimes forget is that people usually don’t post pictures of their bad hair days, messy houses and mommy meltdowns. We all have them, but we don’t post them proudly for all to see.

I’m not saying that we should start posting pictures of our messy kitchens and unshaved pits, but I hope we can remember that social media is a place where most of us share our best pictures and achievements.

So no matter how perfect someone’s life seems online, no one’s life is perfect.

Mawwaige

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The Impressive Clergyman:

“Mawwiage. Mawwiage is what bwings us togethew today. Mawwiage, that bwessed awwangement, that dweam within a dweam. And wove, twue wove, wiww fowwow you fowevah and evah… So tweasuwe youw wove.”

In honor of valentines day, here’s a shout-out to my favorite valentine. He is my perfect match. It’s strange because we are polar opposites. We really couldn’t be more different, but we balance each other out and make a pretty awesome team.

The Man is a great dad and a great husband. He cares about his family and friends. He lives with the aftermath of the brain tumor, complete with a headache every minute of every day, but he tries his darnedest not to let it effect him. He’s the one who keeps the mood in our home happy and playful. He does silly voices and quotes random movies. He walks like Sasquatch to cheer someone up. He is patient with Buddy, Little D and I when we have meltdowns. He’s our calming voice when we need it. He loves and adores his little family. He works hard at his job so I can be a stay-at-home mom. (And by the way, the fact that he investigates financial crime for a job is pretty hot). He takes care of me. He respects me. He loves me. He amazes me every day. I love that handsome beast more than I thought possible.

Marriage is hard, no doubt. But it really is awesome to have your best friend beside you to live and laugh and love for the rest of forever. And like that ridiculous clergyman said, marriage can be a dream within a dream. You just have to work for it.

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❤️ Carry On, Warrior ❤️

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Carry On, Warrior is my most favorite book. Every time I read it I feel closer to God, I feel more love for my fellow men, I feel more grounded and have a greater desire to live more simply. I am reminded that people are generally good and need to be loved. I am reminded how important it is to be a good person. I am reminded that every person is a child of God and deserves to be treated as such.

I love how this author is real. She tells it like it is. She empowers people to be good people. She was a drug, alcohol and food addict for 20 years. She was arrested more than a few times. But she didn’t let that ruin her life. She has done amazing things since she’s gotten sober.

I love reading her work. She is so real and raw and funny and humble. I recommend this book to everyone. It is a must read!

Here are some of my favorite parts:

Be gentle with yourself-

Be real- 

Embrace God and people-

Life is hard-  

Sometimes we escape-

God is always there-

We put on a happy face-

On suicide-

You can’t escape you-

God’s daily invitation-

No one is perfect-

Be real-

Write-

Crisis-

Be a good listner-

Make today somebody else’s lucky day-

Be a good friend-

Together-

Grief is not something to be fixed-

Everyone is ok-

Peace is finding God-

Peace-

Just write-

Be simple. Be sophisticated-

Get out there-

God is in control- 

Children are mirrors-

Don’t judge-

Treat everyone with respect-

Everybody’s in-

Different is ok-

Parenting-     

You are ok-  

Parenthood and God are forever tries-

On death-

Every child is gifted-

He’s preparing us for heaven-

School is just one part of life-

Be a better person-

Children of God-

Be confident-

Let them in- 

Same side-

Turn the other cheek-

Only love-

Love His children-

Happiness is smiling at you-  

And my favorite quotes:

                                            
This book grounds me and brings me back to reality when I start to have negative feelings towards others. It reminds me that it’s nice to be important, but it’s more important to be nice.

“Everybody’s in, baby.” We are all children of God and that makes everyone lovable.

Carry On, Warrior!

Find the book here

Look a little deeper 

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This is David Draiman. 

Wikipedia describes his voice as “distorted” and his singing style as “percussive.”  

His band is named Disturbed. 

They do not sing wholesome, uplifting songs.

They are very dark.   

One might think he has a dark soul and is a terrible person.

But then he sings The Sound of Silence and you realize he’s not all dark.  

You watch him on an  interview  and see that he’s just a regular guy.

Regarding the Sound of Silence cover, he commented: “It’s nice to finally have a song that I can play for my parents,” he laughed. “I don’t need to be afraid of it before I [play it for them].”

You find out that he was raised Jewish and trained as a cantor (1. an official who sings liturgical music and leads prayer in a synagogue. 2. (in formal Christian worship) a person who sings solo verses or passages to which the choir or congregation responds.)
You read things he has said, like: “I’ve always been very proud of my heritage and where I come from, and I’ve defended it to the extent of being bloodied on many occasions. In fact, most of the fights I’ve been in my life – and there have been many – have been because I was defending my family or my faith. And I don’t apologize for it.”

Then you repent for judging him in the first place.
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 Watch The Sound of Silence here.

The ONLY way to watch this video is with headphones and your undivided attention.

I have listened to this song probably 100 times. No joke. I can’t get enough of it. I feel it in my chest. It’s one of those songs you actually feel. This song is incredibly powerful to me. Not just because of the music, but because this heavy metal band created something so beautiful and meaningful. I love how they sing a simple song, stepping away from their head banging, mosh-pit-forming songs. They head into a more gentle territory, but still keep their band’s personality. It’s brilliant.

When Draiman played back the first recording session he did, he said “I listened to it three times before I even gave any response to him (his band member). And he got very nervous; he thought I didn’t like it. But what I was actually doing was kind of tearing up listening to it, because it had been so long since I have allowed myself to go to that place vocally, and hearing it, and hearing it come out as well as I thought it did was not just gratifying, but like having a weight lifted off me. So it was an unbelievable experience for all of us. And that people are connecting with it in the way that they are is just simply amazing.”

I think the reason people are connecting with it is because they see the truth in it.

To me, the song is about the absence of human interaction.

It’s a beautifully written song by Paul Simon. I think we interpret the words deeper than Simon meant for them to mean. In an interview with NPR he said: “It’s not a sophisticated thought, but a thought that I gathered from some college reading material or something. It wasn’t something that I was experiencing at some deep, profound level – nobody’s listening to me, nobody’s listening to anyone – it was a post-adolescent angst, but it had some level of truth to it and it resonated with millions of people. Largely because it had a simple and singable melody.”

Add the Disturbed vibe to it and you get a masterpiece.

I love the way the song progresses. In the video, it starts out completely silent. When the music comes in it’s soft and slow. As he starts describing how the “silence” affects him, he sings with a beautiful voice and the visual effects are minimal. During the third verse he gets more passionate about his story. Now it’s not only impacting him but others around him. His voice gets louder and the visual effects increase. By the fifth verse he is very passionate about what he’s trying to get across. The visuals are more intense and his voice is gravelly as he begs for society to change. He’s alone in a world of people who don’t interact and he can’t get their attention. No one hears him. But then, after pleading for those around him to connect with each other, he ends with…

“And whispered in the sound of silence.”

This could be taken two different ways (probably more, but here are my two).

#1- He gave up. No one is listening. He’s alone and defeated. He sees a “silent” society around him and all he has left is a whisper.

#2- He got through to people and they are starting to connect. Though it is just a whisper, it’s a start.

That’s what I get out of it.

I wanted to know other people’s interpretations of the lyrics. One comment I read regarding the meaning reads:

Its theme is man’s inability to communicate with man. The author sees the extent of communication as it is on only its most superficial and “commercial” level (of which the “neon sign” is representative). There is no serious understanding because there is no serious communication – “people talking without speaking – hearing without listening”. No one dares take the risk of reaching out (“take my arms that I might reach you”) to disturb the sound of silence. The poet’s (character in the song) attempts are equally futile (” . . . but my words like silent raindrops fell within the wells of silence”). The ending is an enigma. The words tell us that when meaningful communication fails, the only sound is silence. -MrMojoRisin5552

I love the song and I love the music video. But even more than that, I love that a tough looking bald guy could produce something so beautiful. I think that’s the main reason this cover is so powerful to me. I live with a big bald dude who people say “looks mean” or “looks scary.” But once they talk to him they see that he’s a kind, sensitive and loving man.

This cover shows people that bald, tough, metal heads aren’t always what they seem. Their audience sees the shell they put on. We see the act. But we don’t see what’s inside until we look a little deeper.

You turkey

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Little D: “Hey mom, take pictures of your staticy hair.” 
 
  

Me: “Ok, now get in the picture with me. Smile! …”
 


Me: “Ok, now smile…. ”

 
Me: “Dude, smile for the picture… ”

  

Me: “One picture with a smile and then we’ll keep jumping…”

  
Me: “Fine, do a silly face…”

  

Me: “Come on, do a silly face with me.”

  

Me: “You turkey,  you’re the one who wanted pictures…”

 
Me: “Good enough. Let’s keep jumping.”

My binder

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There’s something calming about a binder, isn’t there? I have binders of all sizes, widths and colors just waiting to be filled. Having a binder makes me feel prepared. It makes me feel like I am semi-in control of the projects and organizations I’m in charge of.

My most recent binder need was just yesterday when I started my new position in church working with the Young Women. I kind of felt stressed going into that position, but once I got my binder it felt more calm. The only thing I have in it is a Calendar some blank tab dividers, but it still did the trick.

Before that, I made a binder when I became a Cub Scout committee chairman at church. I was in charge of a whole lot and that binder made me feel so organized.

Binders, spreadsheets, filing, labeling and stapling… Those things make me happy.

I have just welcomed myself into the NERD category.

Hippie Oils

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I am a hippie for several reasons. I’m from Oregon, I hate to wear shoes, I hate doing my hair, I don’t own a pencil skirt, high heels or lipstick, I don’t make my boys wear shirts, I am quite often bra-less and I use DoTerra Essential Oils. I affectionately call them my “hippie oils.”

When I tried my first oil (I don’t remember what the ailment was) and it didn’t work, I just assumed it was a bunch of hippie hogwash. My family and friends have been using oils for years so I couldn’t understand why people I loved and trusted swore by them. But then I tried one another time and it worked! I was doing it wrong the first time. You are supposed to use a little bit of oil more often than a lot of oil less often.

Now I’m a firm believer in some of the ones I have used. Check this out:

  • Pink Eye – Lavendar on the eyebrows cleared up the boys’ pink eye right away.
  • Tooth ache – Clove stopped the pain.
  • Wart – Buddy had a giant wart on the side of his foot. For several weeks we put freeze-off on it and nothing happened. Then we started putting Oregano oil on it. Two weeks later it was completely gone.
  • Snotty nose – “DigestZen” is a blend that helps digestion issues, but it is also a snot eater. It cleared up Little D’s congested nose within minutes.
  • Cold Sore – Clove killed it before it got big.
  • Burns – The Man got burned on the bbq and Lavendar helped the burn right away.
  • Bites – Lavendar stops the itch from insect bites.
  • Cyst – Melaluca stopped the pain of my ovarian cyst within a day.
  • Canker Sore – Wild Orange made it disappear.
  • Congestion – “Breathe” is a blend that helps us breathe better when we are congested.
  • Upset stomach – The stomach flu has been going around. This morning Little D was saying his tummy hurt. I put DigestZen (mixed with fractionated coconut oil in a roller ball) on his tummy. Several minutes later it stopped hurting. About an hour later it was hurting again. More oil and it stopped hurting. We went through it one more time and by noon he was better.
  • You know those things you get on the inside corner of your nose that hurt really bad? I don’t know if it is a zit or an ingrown hair, I just know it hurts. I have gotten one in the exact same place every two weeks for a few years. Every. Two. Weeks. For a few YEARS! Stupid female hormones. But recently I realized Melaluca is the answer. Once I feel it coming on, I put Melaluca on it and it goes away. I wish I discovered this along time ago!
  • Cough – Peppermint and Lemon mixed together stopped my cough for a few hours at a time.
  • Another cough success story: The Man was coughing a lot in his sleep one night. Around 3am I got up and put a few drops each of Lemon, OnGuard, Breathe and Peppermint in the diffuser and put it right next to his side of the bed. He didn’t cough again until around 5:30.
  • MUST! SLEEP! -Balance blend and Lavendar diffused at bedtime calms the boys right down and they fall asleep really fast.
  • Bags under eyes & Wrinkles – Immortelle is an anti-aging blend that I have been putting under my eyes. This year I seem to have aged with huge bags under my eyes. But since I started using this oil 3 days ago I look so much younger!


So I get the comments and the looks like I am stupid for using essential oils but I don’t care because they work. There are a few that I have tried that haven’t worked but more often than not I have had good results. I totally support my hippie oils.